Out of the blue

Quite out of the blue, I got a message on Facebook today from QC3. Just small talk and a news announcement regarding her future. We've swapped a few messages today, but it's just small talk and doesn't appear to be going anywhere. I wonder why she even messaged me in the first place.

Bummer.

In trying to solve a gossip-related mystery at work, I stumbled across RB’s LinkedIn profile. As recorded in this post, I can confirm that she does now live and work in London. As per usual, I’m a bit down about this and angry at myself for feeling that way too.

I’d always imagined that I’d get to meet her again due to two main factors: the first is that I now know MF and am reasonably friendly with her. She's got a reputation as someone that's hard to talk to, but she seems to have opened up to me. There's also the fact that RB seems to cross my path an awful lot, both online and off - I used to see her around town after we had our 'dates', there's the MF thing (plus RB knows other people I work with) as well as the online thing. With all these things in mind I had always thought (and to be perfectly honest, hoped) that perhaps something might happen. Ah well.

Bored again

I’m bored again with being single. The recent-ish date with Date No. 1 has given me a taste for it again, so I think I’ll look at signing up to Zoosk or Plenty of Fish at the weekend when I get some time to myself.

sadface

I sent V a message on Facebook last night. I was a bit tipsy… I'd been out with a few friends in the pub since the afternoon, but I was in V’s neck of the woods and wanted to see if she fancied meeting up. Unfortunately, I currently don’t have access to the internet during the weekend, so I was relying on my phone and Facebook app.

I woke up this morning to an email notification that she’s posted on my wall, but when I tried to access the message, it was gone. I've no idea what the wall post said, so it looks like I won’t be meeting up with V any time soon.

In similar news, I haven’t heard from USHW in a while either. We swapped messages a few months ago, but I’ve heard nothing since. She hasn’t appeared in my news feed, so I assume she’s not logged on much recently.

Looking forward to a good summer.

This summer’s going to be busy, interesting and, I hope, fun. I’ve just moved into a new position at work that’s going to require a lot of work, but it’s a challenge I’ve been looking for after being brain dead with boredom over the past year, not forgetting the issues with my previous boss. I’m going to pursue a personal project that will hopefully tie in to my work and help me settle quicker and get up to speed instead of being the clueless new boy.

I am hoping to get into the dating thing again at some point. I’m not sure when, though, but hopefully sooner rather than later. I enjoyed the interaction with Date No. 1, even if it didn’t go anywhere and I’m disappointed that she didn’t turn into a cinema buddy. I did find it strange that once she had declined a second date, she effectively blocked me on Match.com and MSN Messenger where we had done some pre-date chatting. Ah well… c’est la vie!

Plans scuppered!

OK, so things pretty much fell apart at the first hurdle. On a completely different topic, I was having a conversation with KFW which turned to dating and, once again, I mentioned that RB was the last time I met a girl where there was instant and two-way chemistry and attraction. I've already mentioned that RB was a bit mental, but KFW acknowledged that as well. When a woman describes another woman of being a little bit nuts, then you know she's full on bonkers. However, that's neither here nor there as RB is not being considered for dating, but for something else. KFW soon put paid to that by telling me that she thinks RB is now in London. Living and working permanently, I assume. Bugger.

Plans.

DSC has been trying to persuade me to look at other options seeing as I'm not bending to her will and signing up with Zoosk or Plenty of Fish yet.

After her own successes recently, she has suggested that I need a fuck buddy which prompted quite a few days of on/off conversation on the matter. The idea is appealing... very much so, but the reality is completely different. I don't know anyone that I am physically attracted to where this might be feasible. DSC suggested RB, which isn't a bad idea. While I haven't seen her in about a year, she was very keen (albeit with baggage), I think she's very attractive and having done a little playing around with her, the potential is for us to have a really good time. I very much doubt she's dating material, but for a bit of fun, who knows?

The stumbling block is, of course, the fact I've not seen her in a year, but it's not insurmountable. All I need to do is talk to MF, drop RB's name and suggest that she brings her out. I'm in the pub quite often with MF, so waiting until she's suitably drunk and open to suggestion shouldn't be too hard!

I might actually give this a go!

Common sense

OK, maybe I was a bit hasty with my last post. It's not that I don't think there's any interest, just that the work environment is not the place for this kind of thing.

Breaching my rules?

I'm relatively friendly with a girl in work. We've never worked closely together and we've never spent a lot of time together socially, but there's always been a little spark there.

So, why the big preamble? Well, I caught her eye in the canteen today and she looked over to me quite a few times within the next few minutes and, well, I'm not entirely sure. I might have to keep an eye on this, but more than likely I'm jumping to huge conclusions.

Plus there's my rule about getting involved with people from work after things with FBS didn't work out as I'd like.

Online dating... End of Part One

My subscription with Match expires on Friday. I've already started trimming it away, ready to remove it from the site on Saturday. There is a lot of frustration directed towards Match.com at the moment. Two months of trying to contact various interesting and good-looking women resulted in one reasonably good lead, namely Date No. 1 and even then, while that had no romantic legs, I thought she was a good candidate for a cinema buddy, but she pretty much blocked me on all counts.

I have complained to Match.com. I feel there's something amiss on the site… a software error or something. Statistically, contacting well over forty women over eight weeks (take out about two and a half weeks where I was chatting to Date No. 1), should have resulted in most of these women coming and having a look at my profile. The reality is different. Four women came to have a look. Four. That's really not a good rate of return, if the site is in full working order (which it isn't, because I know for a fact some of the built-in searches are not returning the correct results). I sent an email last weekend as feedback/a complaint but I've not heard anything back in response.

DSC is trying to get me to look at other options – Plenty of Fish or Zoosk, but Match.com has really left a bad taste in my mouth regarding the online dating thing. I'm not saying I'll never do it again, just that I'll have to think it over first and I'm not going to jump from one directly into another.

Getting circular.

I spent a lot of today chatting to JB in work. I'm trying to get her to come out of her shell a bit more. She's a lovely, good-looking girl that's not shy, but she is quiet and some of her ideas about dating are, well, dated in my opinion. She won't approach men, she doesn't sleep around (in fact, I don't think she has sex outside of a relationship) and any time she's interested in a man, she expects them to be mind readers. I think, she knows all this, but as I know, it's hard to change who you are.

Anyway, that's by the by, as we were on subject of dating friends of friends which brought RB up again. JB doesn't know any of the details... in fact the only two people in work that do know any details are the mutual friend and another girl whom I'll call KFW. Actually, MF probably knows the details as she and RB are close friends. I've mentioned a few things to KFW, but not a lot really.

The point I'm trying to make really is that RB came up again in conversation and I still wished things had turned out better. It's nearly two years since we met, I've since met, dated and slept with other women, so why is RB and/or the lack of anything developing with her still a big deal to me? I'm actually angry at myself for this and I want to know why.

Consideration of topics.

2010 has already been eventful in terms of my dating life. I've already met a few women which has gone places, if you know what I mean. In terms of something more tangible, there's been Date No. 1 that should have gone further, in my opinion. DSC asked me out on a date, which I declined and just the other day, a work colleague/friend of mine, made a vague attempt to set me up with her friend, which I again declined. I'm not against my friends setting me up... I'm all for it actually. QC1 is still talking about setting me up with a sister of a friend of hers, which I'm kinda open to. The same applies to my friend/work colleague. It was more the girl than the offer that I rejected. I'm still reticent about dating people I work with and if I did it, she would have to be very special with a ton of potential. Saying that, maybe I should have a word with friend/work colleague about setting me up... plus she knows RB!