She's bought a new car. I don't know if it's new or just to her. It's a fancy car. One of those "big name" sports cars that you might have aspired to as a youngster. She shows off two keyrings, one with a motivational quote, and the other, the car manufacturer's logo.
I'm not impressed.
I'm not impressed for a number of reasons. Firstly, I'm just not a car guy. If it gets you from A to B, then all's good. Secondly, I remember CH owning several cars, all of which needed expensive repairs, and often at times that coincided with socialising. Owning a more expensive car just makes the repairs more expensive.
Secondly, the inference that money = success. I know she now earns a lot of money. But so does KfW2 (or she will in a month's time when she starts her new job). And so does FP. And, well, so do a lot of my friends. I know CH's job takes her away from her family a lot more than her old job in my company... and she was very adamant that she was moving jobs initially for better money but better work/life balance, too.
And kinda lastly, there's a comment about being a good role model... but I'm struggling with that one too. She wasn't really a good friend - she was selfish and set in her ways (remember me bitching about trying to get her on her own for a chat over coffee?) She doesn't take criticism well. She doesn't appear to have too many close friends. If she's teaching that money equates to success, then I'm afraid I disagree.
I advocate happiness. Do what you can to be happy, without fucking anyone else over.
I dunno; it's been seven years since we last had any meaningful communication. I feel irrationally angry over this. It's like she's mis-selling herself or boasting, or both. Maybe she is a good role model, but I'm not seeing it on Facebook, nor did my experiences with her, as a male friend, scream "good role model". People do this shit on social media all the time, so why is this post, in particular, pissing me off?
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