Just stuff.

When I used to work with GM, he had a period where he dated a fair proportion of our HR department.  One of them, a stunningly attractive blonde girl, requested my friendship on Facebook. We got along pretty well, so I had no qualms in doing so.

I've still got quite a few of GM's exes as friends on Facebook, but that's maybe another random, rambling post.

Regardless, the blonde regularly posts pictures of her out partying - she has a nice line in thigh-length dresses with plunging necklines... and she fills those dresses pretty damned well, it has to be said.

She's been pretty busy over the past few weeks, updating profile pictures etc. and it's made logging into Facebook worthwhile.

More random musings

One thing that's always annoyed me about KfW2 is how things that's she incapable of doing in the real world suddenly become non-issues in work. Her time-keeping, for instance. She's always been notoriously bad. All of her friends admit it, and while she's often late with me, it's not to the extent that she is/has been with some of her other friends. I think I nailed that down fairly early in our friendship. Unreliability is possibly my biggest bugbear. I'm digressing though. Get KfW2 into work and the flighty, ditsy girl disappears and a reliable, diligent, driven person appears.

I saw exactly the same thing with AM and QC1. And it annoyed me. Being late, forgetting things etc. all of which have happened between AM/KfW2/QC1 would never have happened had they been meeting requests in work.

And I've never understood that. If you can be that person in work, then why can't you be like that in your personal life?

Random stuff.

I had an impromptu night out with FP last night. He'd already been out for a few hours and was tipsy by the time I'd arrived. It was a good night. In between talking about our usual things, we got talking to a group of women who had arrived and were also, like FP, tipsy. One, a brunette, caught my eye. The brunette also compared me to one of the other woman's husband, who proceeded to call me by her husband's name while we chatted Sadly, they left before I could make any real conversation with the brunette.

Also, towards the end of the night, a group from work arrived at the pub. Included was a girl who seemingly has a sizeable male fan club who follows her around each social event.

The following photo is Sabrina Lynn... I think she's an American Instagram model of some description. Facially, she's actually very similar to the work girl, but the work girl is slimmer and without the curves.

Also, as a side note, apparently, Sabrina Lynn is about 5' 11" tall. 180cm for you metric lot. I love tall women.

Quelle Surprise.

We were meant to head out last night to help S celebrate his birthday plus have a kinda of Christmas night out as well. Despite asking S for the actual details all this week, we were still chasing him for the plans late yesterday afternoon.

Then came the kicker.

"Sorry, I'm not going to go out tonight"

It wasn't the world's most unsurprising news but it was frustrating enough regardless. It wasn't just me that he let down - KfW2, FP and a few others from our social circle were due to go out. And I was looking forward to it as well.

Grrr.

One of the things that's annoyed me about KfW2 is that, in work, she's selfish/single-minded. She's asked me to do favours for her, then made demands on my time when I say I'll do it when I can.

"Can you do me this favour please?"

"Not right now, but I can do it after lunch"

"OK"

Five minutes later...

"I really need it right now. Can you do this for me please?"

And then we'd get into an "argument" about our internal reward system because I would do the favour and she'd refuse to acknowledge my generosity in the system.

Earlier, she pinged me and asked me to go for coffee... in ten minutes. So, I arrive at her desk at the requested time and she's finishing up some work. This is also a recurring issue, by the way. I'm standing nearby, waiting for her to finish. Just as she's finishing up, probably five to ten minutes later, someone approaches her desk and asks her a question.

What's the etiquette here, dear reader?

Personally, I'd say "Can I get back to you in fifteen minutes, Ruuude's been waiting for me".

KfW2, however, perceives this person to be a higher priority than I am, and I spend another fifteen minutes while she has a chat with this person.

So, that means I've spent fifteen to twenty minutes waiting for KfW2.

That's not a one-off, and with KfW2 moving into a new job with greater responsibilities, this kind of thing isn't going to get any less frequent.

Girly Nights Out

I bumped into MFF today. She asked if I was going to go to the Xmas Party. I'm not. It's not fun any more and the people I used to have fun with have moved on. MFF is going - she has a routine with OK and another girl (and previously CH as well) where they'll all get ready to go out at MFF's with a few drinks then arrive just as the meal is being served, and follow that up with a few hours of dancing.

And, quite frankly, I've no desire to socialise with Stalky Guy on my own. If I am being honest, the years of favouritism shown to him has bred resentment when there's only the two of us. That's why I don't do our monthly work thing if it's only the two of us any more.

KfW2 is going, though she might only stay for the meal and leave. My offer of a bed for the night has been refused. I had kinda hoped that she'd be out a while, take me up on my offer and we'd at least have a few drinks when she got back into the house. After all, she managed to stay up until well after 4 AM last year with CC when she stayed there. Still... if KfW2 is not staying at mine, that frees me up to try and get a few friends out for a beer or two.

Well, I never!

In the past, I've sometimes gone Facebook stalking for old acquaintances and crushes... Most of the time, it's curiosity on my part and the person in question has crossed my mind for some random reason. Other times, it's because someone has asked specifically about them - KfW2 or USHW for example would sometimes want to know more about someone I've mentioned in conversation.

A lot of them cannot be found on Facebook - they don't have social media accounts or I can't remember their surname, or they married and changed it, or never knew it (for some of my more fleeting dalliances).

Once, I came across someone (CAB) purely by accident, probably eight years or so after we'd dated and she left the country. That provoked an email that turned into a very brief chat (she was about to travel the world, just as I was). We've not been in contact since.

However, imagine my surprise when I was hunting through YouTube recently and a video that included CAB was recommended to me. That was confusing - the video was not on a topic that I'd be interested (university courses). Still, it provoked a few good memories.

Just stuff

Today is the sixth anniversary of an interesting night out - it was the night that something serious might have happened with CH (I've blogged about it before, but I can't find the post or I'd link it), and I ended up dancing, albeit briefly, with the woman who would go on to become Quiet Girl.

Quiet Girl is opening up to me more and more each time we talk. It's a far cry from the first few times where it was impossible to get anything out of her (I remember a bus journey in particular). We actually sat on the bus yesterday on the way home and she was being very chatty. This is on top of the fact she's now sitting closer to me and getting involved in some of the chat that I'm provoking with the others around me.

Maybe she's simply like me - takes a while to open up to someone. I'd hope that I'm not giving off the impression of being that standoffish though.

Lookalikes

I've posted a few times about a local celeb that I've spotted on Tinder, and despite swipes and super likes, I'm still nowhere near starting a conversation, never mind getting a date.

I was browsing a news website earlier and I came across a story about the new Prime Minister of Finland.

Here she is:

What is the link between a local celebrity and the youngest Prime Minister in the world? Well, nothing really apart from a similarity in how they look. There's more to be said about Sanna Marin's new position how she will head a women-led coalition government in Finland and how I hope she's as successful as Jacinda Ardern (who I'm a great admirer of). And jealous, because we're about to have Boris Johnson as Prime Minister.

Bah humbug?

"It doesn't feel like Christmas" opined KfW2 as we walked to the bus stop.

I agreed.

Unlike KfW2 though, this didn't disappoint me. I don't particularly like Christmas. I tend to feel very lonely, even when I'm busy socially. This year though, it looks very quiet from a social point of view.

Just stuff.

I don't want to go into the specifics, but a friend of mine posted something on Facebook that tied them to a reasonably famous actress. I've found myself day-dreaming all day about being asked to show this person around my home town. It's far-fetched. My friend is unlikely to meet the actress in question, much less recommend me as a tour guide should that celebrity come to town.