Secret fun and games... part two.

Well, where do I start? I got a message from F yesterday, telling me that the third party had called it a day with K. (See this entry: Secret fun and games) That's interesting for a few reasons. The first is that, knowing K, she's probably infatuated with D. It seems to be how she is, but the "relationship" (and I use that term loosely) is just over a year old by my reckoning, so I reckon she's devastated. Secondly, to the best of my knowledge, the third party is still supposedly still dating A, another friend of mine. In fact, A's relationship with the third party is probably about 18 months old at the moment which means she's been seeing the third party longer than K has.

K's been aware of A for a while (in terms of possible relationships with the third party – K and A do actually know each other, though it would be inaccurate to call them friends), but I'm not sure how much she knows for sure. From what I can gather, K's been friends with the third party longer than A has, but when A and the third party first hit it off and became an item, the third party wanted things kept a bit hush-hush, so K wasn't told outright. Suspicious, huh? I thought so.

Sadly, A's a bit insecure (actually, K is too, but K's bunny-boiling tendencies tend to over-ride that) so didn't tell K directly that she was seeing the third party, due to the third party's wishes for secrecy, but instead dropped loads of hints. I've already said that K would ignore the most obvious signs if that's what she didn't want to hear, so it's possible that she has deliberately ignored what A has told her.

That has all been covered before, though.

I haven't spoken to A for nearly a week, but when we last spoke, she was planning on being a bit more forward in getting what she wanted from her relationship with the third party (and the third party has been a shocking boyfriend to A since I've known her) including visiting the third party this weekend. This is what strikes me as strange – why did the third party dump K on the eve of A's first visit down there in months? Did A get to meet up with the third party (who can be difficult to pin down with arrangements)? Did the third party dump A, too?

I have loads of questions about this, because it all smells funny to me. As I've said, the third party is a shocking boyfriend to A, and from the little information I've gathered from F, to K too. So, is the third party actually looking for a relationship or just some sort of on-call fuck?

It would appear to be the former at this moment in time, and with A rather than K, though it's my personal opinion that the third party really needs to pull his socks up if he's to make anything last with A (though A will desperately hang on until the bitter end rather than be pro-active about the whole thing).

I suppose it's pointless pondering this further until I've spoken more to both A and F. I should speak to A at some point over the next week and I know that K is visiting F next weekend, so there'll be some gossip/news after that.